"It is not the critic who counts, not the one who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat."
- You don’t have to achieve great things by the time you’re 25
- You have intrinsic value above and beyond your perceived utility to other people and society at large.
- You don’t have to have sex, or have sex in any way that you find uncomfortable or unpleasant, to keep anyone’s love or good opinion of you. They didn’t love you or think very well of you to start with if they demand it.
- You don’t have to stay with someone who isn’t meeting your emotional or sexual needs because they need you, or you’ve been with them for awhile, or you need to be in a relationship. You need you. Your time is your own and it is finite.
- It’s ok to work at a job you enjoy that doesn’t make you miserable even if it’s not a career and it won’t “lead to anything.”
- Your life is not a narrative. It is not leading to anything, there is no overarching thesis, it does not have themes beyond the usual shared cultural experiences of your time and place. This is ok. It does not mean that your life is without purpose or meaning.
- It’s ok not to like or get along with the vast majority of people you encounter, so long as you afford them the same respect, courtesy and dignity that they afford you.
- Expensive is not always better.
- Failure is temporary if you’re still alive.
- People are both much better and much worse than you’d suspect, but usually not all at once.
- Stop thinking of your future self as a different person and it will be easier to prevent money and health problems.
- Let people help you, lean on them when you need to, and be available to help, but don’t swing too far in either direction. Try to carry your half of the life basket as evenly as you can.
- Set boundaries, and do not be afraid to kick people out of your life who disregard them. You will not end up alone and unloved. People who love you will be ok with your boundaries.
- Your power does not come from money or beauty, but from seeing life steadily and wholly, from a curious and thoughtful mind, and from your ability to say no when you want to, and yes when you want to, and I don’t know when you don’t know.
- There will be bad times, maybe lots of bad times, but not only bad times.
- Love will not heal the wounds in your soul, but love can give you the impetus to begin the work of healing yourself.
- Life might be a long series of starting over, and that’s alright.
- You’re really cool, you’re really beautiful, you’re really special. Really. Not to everyone, but to a lot of someones sometimes.
This is lovely.
The Spartan Race is an international obstacle course that challenges participants to push themselves beyond their limits. Which is exactly what Corporal Todd Love chose to do as part of Team E-X.T.R.E.M.E., an eight member group that signed up to run the Beast, the most brutal of all Spartan events.
Over a span of five and a half hours, 22-year-old Love covered 10.5 miles of muddy, rugged terrain and completed over 75 obstacles with minimal help from his team.
The corporal had been preparing for the challenge ever since he began to recover from the explosion in Afghanistan in 2010 that left him with only one of his natural limbs. Love said he set out, “…to push [myself] in all things physical, proving that overcoming obstacles isn’t just something you attempt, it’s something that you embrace.”
Heartwarming Tearjerker of the Day: Matt W. has spastic cerebral palsy, which means his mobility is severely limited. But Matt was determined to run in his Ohio elementary school’s Field Day race, so his best friend, the gym teacher Mr. Blaine, led Matt’s classmates in a spontaneous show of support.
"btw, i’m always really inspired by your running and super proud of you. you’re doing great."
This was in an e-mail from a friend today and it meant so much to me. My max distance is a single half marathon and I still have a long ways to go on my weight loss. He is an ultramarathoner with 3 - 50 mile races under his belt, a 100k scheduled and a 100 mile planned for the summer. It means a lot to have him support my running.
Just bought a ton of great running books, this was one of them. I’m going to start reading it today.
Reading this book for the second time. It’s such a great way to get inspired for training.
obsessed with this book. need to read it again soon :)
Fantastic book. I should read it again, too.
"If you think you are too small to be effective, you have never been in bed with a mosquito."